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Man Up! Really......... SMH

Sometimes society can create stereotypes that are not helpful and in reality, can cause great pain and suffering. Statements like "man up" "real men don't cry" are so damaging for our young men growing up and can stifle their emotional development. This may result in feelings of low self-worth and a fear of being perceived as anything other than masculine, if men show their feelings. Men therefore often become withdrawn and are unable to talk about what may be causing them distress. Men, like women do have feelings and need to express them, in order to function in an emotionally healthy way. This has nothing to do with Masculinity at all!

If you know a man who needs someone to talk to, here are some points to think about:

  • Reach out to them and offer a safe place for them to talk to you. Just listen to what they are saying and talk less. Resist the urge to say things like "everything will be alright" , " it could be worse', etc. These statements rarely make anyone feel better.

  • As we know, men are often reluctant to reach out for help, so now that you have made a connection and listened to them, continue to reach out. Keep in touch, check in often and don't wait for them to contact you, the chances are they probably won't, but that doesn't mean they don't want to talk more.

  • There are lots of good organisations out there for men, so encourage them to make contact with them and get some professional support. Andy Mans' Club, CALM (campaign against living miserably) and the Samaritans can all offer really good support. Seeking out talking therapy with a trained counsellor, can also be of great benefit.

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